The last couple of posts have discussed the vital role parents play in supporting their child at home by negotiating a practice time and making sure it's stuck to.  For the next few posts we turn to practical strategies to help once you're at the piano. 

Make it a special time
In today's hectic world 1:1 time with your child is rare, so why not make practice time a special time when it's just the two of you and you can treasure the time spent together.  Put the phone and other distractions away, make sure siblings are occupied elsewhere, shut the dog out and really be present with your child. 

The power of praise & constructive feedback
You already know this, but children crave parents' affirmation but it needs to be:

• honest
• specific
• about hard work

So ask questions - how could you make that better?  I wonder what that would sound like if you played it faster / higher / lower / etc.
Say 'I can see how fast you are progressing using that strategy'
Say 'I loved the sound you created just there'....and so on.  

I hope this has given you some ideas for practical ways to support your child.  There will be more next time!  

It's the start of the new school year.  Children have returned to school and piano lessons eager to learn.  There really is no better time to get the piano practice rolling than right now. It's up to parents to establish and uphold the expectation that their child will practice as prescribed by the teacher to help their child develop a practice habit.  If you, the parent, are inconsistent then your child will receive the message that actually, music practice is not important nor valued.  

I read a fantastic book earlier this year about how habits work.  Habits are developed by our brain to make our life easier.  For example brushing our teeth when we get up and when we go to bed.  We don't need to think about this, we just do it and I'm sure it's something you're trying to develop in your child, with daily reminders necessary for years.  

To develop the piano practice habit you need to develop the same routine for your child.

• Cue - practice time e.g. before breakfast / coming home from school
• Routine - play the piano
• Reward - it's fun (hopefully, sometimes there may be a challenge but challenges are here to be overcome and the reward is then 'getting it')

Consistency with piano practice is key.  If you are willing to be inconsistent, so too will the child.  Every single child who has ever played music will have wanted to skip practice or complained about it, but if you want the end goal - joyful music making - you have to go through some pain.  Elissa Milne says 'just as you don't give your child the option of not brushing their teeth, bathing, eating, dressing, in the same way practice is not optional.  Even if you have to remind them daily for a decade.  You are the parent.  You make the rules.  No one ever reached adulthood and said I wish my parents had stopped me learning the piano.'

So, you're at the piano having scheduled the cue - the practice time.  Now the real work begins of helping your child through the frustration that will inevitably come, as with any endeavour.  Gary McPhearson a music education expert found that parents are the ones that quit.  they get fed up with the battles.  So what can you do when the going gets tough and the child doesn't want to do it?  

You can provide structural support but you cannot make it grow.  You want tomatoes but you can't focus on them.  You have to focus on the environment.  You have to create an environment where the plant can grow and thrive.  In the same way you need to create favourable conditions at home, that will enhance and maybe accelerate their love and learning of music.  ​

How might you begin to create this environment?  Here are some thoughts:

• Go to classical music concerts, orchestral and piano.  We have plenty at GLive in Guildford, music festivals, music events at the Electric Theatre (Guildford).  Look out for child friendly events at the Royal Albert and Royal Festival Halls and GLive.  Get your child fired up and inspired, wanting to make music like the people they see;
• Watch YouTube videos of pianists.  Lang Lang is inspirational, as is The Piano Gal (a young teen);
• Let your child see you struggling to learn something.  Why not get them to teach you something they already know so you can find out just how tricky it can be;
• Listen and move to classical music as much as possible.  Sign up to the new listening list if you haven't done so yet.
• Is the piano in a sociable area of the house or have you located it somewhere 'out of the way'?  Children won't want to play if it's not in a sociable area in the house.  
• Is it warm and inviting or a bit of a mess?  What can you do to make it an inviting area?
• Is it comfortable?  Is the stool at the right height and is it well lit? 

You're still going to get tantrums and problems.  Christopher Fisher says 'when little people are overwhelmed by big emotions it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos'.  I love this.  It's so easy to get caught up in it all rather than just be present with the child's emotions.  Remember the key is to be calm and poised so that you can help your child.  

Takeaways

A few things to take away from this post:

• Your attitude to practice matters.  If you let practice slip so will they. 
• Schedule a time to practice and stick to it.
• Keep calm!
• Cultivate fertile soil - create the best conditions for learning you can
• Change 'I can't do it' into 'I can't do it yet'

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What strategies have you found that work?  Share them below!
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Read the next post for practical strategies to apply to practice sessions.